Teen Dating Tips

No doubt that at some part of your life so far you have had a crush on someone, maybe that is why you are here now.

You might also be here to find out how to tell what true love is or how to tell if he/she is the “perfect” match for you, well to be totally honest, noone can tell you who mr/mrs perfect is, and noone can tell you what true love is, because “true love” and “perfect” both mean different things for different people.

There is also two different types of love, I got taught these by an ex-girlfriend and didn’t really understand them at the time.

Type one is “loving” someone, anyone can love someone, but love is just a word, and i love my mates/mum/sister/etc but it doesn’t mean they are my perfect partner.

Type two is “being in love” with someone, the main difference with this one is that its not just a word, its a feeling, a feeling that you feel for a certain person. Being in love is the one that makes your heart jump into your mouth, the one that gets you excited everytime you see them, and being in love is the most important thing in a relationship, if you have two people that are totally “in love” with each other then the chances are they will have a long, strong and happy relationship.

Teen Dating PT2 – Whats What

As if life is not already confusing enough, and now we are gonna chuck in some love. Once you reach your teenage years you will no doubt start experimenting with the opposite sex, one of the things you might experiment with is dating.

Dating is a great experience, it can teach you many things, some are useless, but some things can change you for the rest of your life, because that person that has asked you on the date could be the person you spend the rest of you life with, it is a scary thought but there really aint much that you should be scared of, because its all part of the fun.

If you are ever asked out on a date here are a few bits of advice;

* Do you like the person that has asked you?

Dating is meant to be a fun experience, if your not interested in the person that has asked you, do the smart thing and say no, if you are interested in the person then great what you waiting for.

* Does this person pressure you?

If the person that has asked you tries to put pressure on you to do things that you do not want to do say no, you could still date but do not let them pressure you into things you do not want to do.

* Does this person make you feel safe?

The best thing about love is knowing that the other person makes you feel safe, if you are afraid of the person, or scared he might do something you dont want to do, its probally a good idea to skip the date.

* Do you share interest/hobbies?

If you both share similar interest/hobbies it makes dates a whole lot easier since it means that you will have something to talk about that the other person will be interested in listening to.

Teen Dating PT 3 – Further Down the Line

Once you start dating the same person for a while and the dating turns more into a relationship, you might start to feel pressurised to do more intimate things such as sex, your friends will also start asking questions such as “How far have you gone”, or “have you shagged him/her yet”, but you should not give into this pressure unless you really feel that you are ready.

If you do feel that you are ready to start having a sexual relationship, remember to take pre-cautions and have safe sex by using a condom and other forms of contraception, and girls don’t think that its a boys job to remember a condom, it doesn’t hurt you to have a couple spare. If you fail to have safe sex then you are exposing yourself to STIs and un-planned pregnancies.

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Teenage Problems

Problems come in two categories: Problems that you have no control over, and problems that come as a consequence of something you have done. Examples of the first category include things like cancer and the death of a parent. You deal with them as they occur as best you can. Examples of the second category include drugs and pregnancy. You prevent these in your own life by being smart and learning the facts ahead of time so you can avoid them. The book The Teenager's Guide to the Real World is a great place to start learning the facts.

What if you, personally, have a problem? Or one of your friends? It matters, and it is real. It doesn't matter what the problem is: as soon as it affects you personally in some way, it becomes important.

The first step in solving or coping with a problem (or in helping a friend with a problem) is recognizing that the problem exists. For example, if you have "a problem with drugs," nothing will happen until you recognize that you have the problem. Only you can fix it. That is what makes recognition so important.

Once you recognize that the problem is there, you can begin to understand it and your options. One of the best things you can do is find someone to talk to. That someone might be one of your parents, an adult you trust, a teacher or counselor at school, a minister or priest, or a person on a 1-800 help line (see below). Talking really helps, no matter what your problem is.

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Teenage Relationship

How To Handle Teenage Relationship.

Teenage relationship problems are par for the course. While every relationship has its issues during the teenage years the ups and downs seem to be magnified due to raging hormones and inexperience. Yet teens don’t always recognize the signs of a troubled relationship until they are too embroiled in the situation to get out or to get out unscathed.

While there are a number of signs that pinpoint a relationship that is either not working or is in danger of falling apart, some signs that point toward a breakup are simple and can be handled easily:

Arguing: Avoid never-ending fights or bickering. Instead, try to reason with your partner, and understand his concerns. Do not belittle his problems. What might be a mole hill to you might be a mountain to your partner. Try to understand where he is coming from, and respect his decisions.

Support And Encouragement: Support your partner in his endeavors. Even if one party does not enjoy or participate in sports the other party should respect the time and work that their partner puts into the sport in order to do well. Support your partner by attending his sporting events and allowing them the sleep and practice time needed in order to be all he can be in his chosen activity. The same is true of other activities,such as drama school politics or after-school employment.

Don’t Tread On Family and Friends: Never cut down your partner’s family or friends. Allow your partner to maintain relationships with his friends and family. At the same time, both parties need to spend time together as a couple. This is not always easy but can be accomplished with a little work.

Obsessive Behavior: Constantly checking their partner’s cell phone and e-mail is a surefire way of causing issues between the two of you, as well as with his family and friends. If you respect your partner’s ability to decide whom he speaks with, this issue won’t arise. If you cannot deal with certain issues, such as your boyfriend taking calls from her old girlfriend, it’s not unreasonable to speak with him about this. If he promises to stop and doesn’t maybe it’s time to move on.

Controlling Demeanor: One of the toughest things to learn during teenage dating is that you should have control over your own actions, and your partner should have control over his own actions. When you become a couple, it does not mean that you control the other person’s actions, speech, the way he dresses or where he hangs out, whom he hangs out with or the places he chooses to visit. If you have an issue with what your partner does in his spare time, talk to him. If some of these places and/or people are dangerous, voice your concern. If your partner doesn’t agree with you, but his behavior is clearly dangerous, tell his parents. It’s better to have your partner angry with you than to allow him to get into a situation that can cause bodily harm.

Don’t Compare Relationships: Don’t bring up an old boyfriend, and don’t compare your current relationship to a past relationship. While you can consider the differences and similarities in your own mind, your partner will not be anxious to hear about what a former boyfriend did right and what you’re doing wrong. Instead, talk about this issue with your partner in a manner that is not threatening and does not involve an old flame.

Dealing With Someone You Don’t Want To Date: If you tell someone that you are not interested in dating him and he doesn’t leave you alone, it’s time to involve a higher authority, such as a parent or teacher.

Unhappy Relationship: If you’re dating someone and you are both unhappy, it’s time to end the relationship.

Blind Dates: If your friends set you up on a blind date and you’re interested in going out, then go. But if your friends are harassing you about the situation and you don’t want to see this boy, don’t. The choice is always yours.

Remember, you’re dating, not getting married. Teen dating should be fun. Although many relationships started in the teen years end quickly, you want to be able to have fond memories of your experiences.

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