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Sex Does a Body Good

OK, you’re probably not considering the health benefits of sex when you’re thinking about getting down, but Joy Davidson, Ph.D., a New York sex therapist, says there are 10 distinct ways in which sex does good things for your bod.

• Relieves stress
• Boosts the immune system
• Burns calories
• Reduces stroke and heart attack risks
• Boosts self-esteem
• Improves intimacy
• Reduces body pain
• Lowers prostate cancer risk
• Strengthens pelvic muscles
• Helps you sleep better

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Sex Or TV?

When faced with the choice of sex or television, is it possible to have both?

Would You Choose Sex Or TV?

It was 11:45 p.m. on a Wednesday night. My wife and I were exhausted and cozies up in bed together. We both had one thing on our minds. Unfortunately, it wasn’t the same thing. I was craving sex and she was craving the season three finale of “Friday Night Lights.” We were at a standstill, experiencing what some might call a “21st century marital pickle.” It seems Netting and sites like Hulu just might be the modern couple’s greatest obstacles to a steady sex life. The continuous supply of great TV is so accessible and so compelling,

many a good couple become hooked like crackheads and forget about making their own entertainment. Through burning eyes and next day regret, couples machete through a season of “Lost” or “The Wire,” ignoring or forgetting to fuel their loins. But on this night, something in me snapped and I drew a line in the sand … with my penis. “Babe,” I said, “we’re in a losing battle against awesome TV. It will never end. There are too many TV shows out there; when do we get to do it?” The Frisky: Sex With Steph: My Boyfriend Has A Low Sex Drive

My wife took in what I was saying. She looked at me, looked at our alarm clock and sighed. She turned toward the computer screen and slowly back at me. “But, don’t you want to see what college Lyla Garrity winds up going to?”

“Ah crap!” I said. She was right. I did want to know. In fact, it felt more like I needed to know. Lyla worked her tail off to get into Vanderbilt and now her dad wipes out her college fund on a hair-brained business deal and she’s forced to go to San Antonio State?!

I began losing my libido to a flood of questions. Could Lyla truly thrive at State? Would it be academically challenging enough? Would Tim Riggins bring her down or could Mrs. Taylor find a third way to solve all this? I was no longer in my bedroom in Brooklyn. I was deep in Dillon, Texas. Focus Wehle! I collected myself. ” I got it,” I declared with pride to my wife. “Let’s merge.”

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Successful Dating

How Teens Can Be More Successful At Dating

If you are a teenager and have trouble dating, this guide is for you. These tips will surely help you survive in the dating world. Based on personal experiences of my own, and after talking to a large variety of teenagers on a daily basis, I have compiled this guide to help others who might have at one time, found themselves in many of the same positions I did. Don’t expect this guide to make you a master at finding many dates with ease; it will still take work on your part. We will be touching on some very important issues that many teens face in the dating world. Let’s get started!

One of the most popular questions I often get is what do I do if I like someone, but they don’t like me back? There is no magical button you can press that will make someone love you, it has to happen all by itself. If you are in a position like this it can be difficult to deal with. We’ve all been there, you have a big crush on someone and they don’t even know you are there. But thinking about something you can’t change will only drain your energy even more and will make finding that special someone that much harder.

The first step is to acknowledge that all of that pain that you are feeling right now will always go away eventually, especially after you find someone you truly loves you for who you really are. You might even look back and laugh at that pain you felt when you realize that the person who loves you was just waiting to find you! There’s no use getting worked up over things you can’t change, because when things progress naturally at their own pace, the magic truly unfolds.

We all go through the teenager phase, where emotions run high and lead to jealousy towards others. But this isn’t essentially something bad. If you are in a relationship, and your significant other is checking out other people, don’t jump to conclusions and think you have to end the relationship. You do have a right to be annoyed, however first you must make your concerns clear. Communication is one of the most important things.

If you are hit by the jealousy bug, that’s fine. We’ve all been there; but it’s irrational jealousy that hurts us which is very different. This can lead to paranoia and constant worrying over whether not your partner is cheating. Although we all worry about these kinds of things in relationships, letting it rule your life is very unhealthy and can wreck the entire relationship itself. Ask yourself whether the jealousy you feel is justified or not.

At first, we may not know if we are in love or not. Another popular question I get from teens is when they ask, “How can I tell if I am in love or not?” I always respond by saying, you will know when it happens. You can feel it. It is the most straightforward answer of all because it is a feeling like no other. Obsession isn’t love. If someone is on your mind all the time, you don’t necessary have to be in love with them.

Lust is also compared to love but is not nearly as meaningful. Many of us have felt very strongly towards someone. You see them as being beautiful and attractive. Combining this lust with obsession can trap many people and will usually lead to an unfulfilling relationship.

This next issue is something many teens ask me how to deal with and I always give them this tip. A big problem regarding the love lives of teens is parents. Old fashioned parents often believe their younger teens shouldn’t date and will disapprove of current boyfriends or girlfriends. An important step to dealing with this problem is to be on good terms with parents. Otherwise it will be that much harder to deal with the issue.

When the day is over, parents have your back. Although it may not seem like it, they’ve faced all the same problems you’ve dealt with. They’ve been in your shoes and have a lot more experience to draw knowledge from. Just like how relationships with your boyfriend or girlfriend thrive on communication, so does your relationship with your parents. It is important to never forget that. If you hide your actions from them and keep quiet, it will only lead to more heart-ache in the long run.

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Dating Mistakes

8 Dating Mistakes Even Smart Girls Make

Trying to make your new relationship last or just looking to avoid a repeat of your latest dating mistakes?

Dating Mistake #1: Being Too Available

We’re not suggesting you play games, but we are telling you to indulge your passions and resist the urge to abandon your social circle every time your new man sends an invitation. Take Sebastian, 34, from Chicago, for example: “When I was single, there were women I initially liked who seemed to be waiting by the phone for me to call, which let me know if I didn’t meet someone else I wanted to date, I had a standby. There just wasn’t anything to work for, and that turned me off,” he says. The more you engage in and enjoy your life, the more he’ll work to be a part of it.

Dating Mistake #2: Trying to Rehabilitate a Bad Boy

Ending a relationship is rarely easy, and though flying solo might not be your long-term goal, being on your own is better than feeling alone in a relationship with someone who treats you poorly. Even when it might be tempting to give a toxic romance one more try, knowing when to cut your losses and move on leaves you available and baggage-free when the right guy comes along.

Related: 25 Things That Keep Him Hooked and Happy

Dating Mistake #3: Looking for Perfection

Encouraging you to settle isn’t our style, but separating your desires from your deal-breakers can give your love life a major upgrade. “There are some qualities that your mate must have—being honest, for example—and others, such as movie-star looks, that should be thrown in the would-be-nice category,” says Elizabeth R. Lombardo, Ph.D., author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness.“Sit down and realistically figure out what characteristics are nonnegotiable and then be open-minded about the rest.”

Dating Mistake #4: Feeling Sorry for Yourself

Resist the urge to bemoan your single status (which will only make him wonder why you find yourself such terrible company) and use this time to date yourself. Taking a dance class at the local studio, hitting up the exhibit you have been aching to see and trying out the new wine bar on the corner will not only offer you the chance to have more fun but will also leave you more likely to meet someone who shares your interests. So much better than sitting in your apartment waiting for someone to “wink” at your online profile picture, isn’t it? Another bonus? You’ll have far more interesting things to talk about over dinner than what your boss made you do on your lunch break last Friday.

Dating Mistake #5: Knowing His Thread-Count Before You Know His Phone Number

Getting it on with a sexy stranger is your natural-born right, but according to many guys, it can be the wrong move if you’re looking for long-term love.

Follow the advice of super-sexy leading man Gilles Marini (he was Samantha’s sexy neighbor in Sex and the City: The Movie): “Men love women who respect themselves and who do not rush into bed with them but instead go on a few dates, where they can start to gain an understanding of each other and then decide whether or not to take things further. Women need to know that taking it slow and getting to know one another is the best way to get into a good relationship,” he says.

See our tips: 12 Things Guys Wish You Knew in Bed

Dating Mistake #6: Being Too Selfish in Your Relationship

One of the downsides of being independent is that it can lead to some self-absorbed tendencies—a huge turnoff for men looking for a serious relationship, says Ming Gregory, a professional matchmaker at Color Blind International Dating Service. So make sure you’re giving as much as you’re receiving in your next relationship. “A partnership involves two people who share mutual interests and mutually benefit one another,” she says. “It’s not just about what being with him can provide you; it’s about how you can come together to complement each other.”

Dating Mistake #7: Believing in The One

“A lot of women make dating more difficult by placing so much pressure on themselves to find the one-and-only-man-in-a-billion they believe is right for them,” says Ali, 35, from Gaithersburg, Maryland.

Instead of convincing yourself the ex you dumped was your soul mate or that perfect-but-married co-worker was your one that got away, take a cue from our male counterparts and approach the dating scene with the idea that there are plenty of men who are capable of making you laugh, sharing your values and melting your heart, and you’re going to have fun with several of them until you find one worthy of your commitment.

Dating Mistake #8: Forgetting Your Manners

We can’t imagine this is something you’d ever do, but a little reminder never hurts: Say thank you.

“Good manners have become so old-fashioned that men now wait for the thank-you at the end of the date as a way to see if she’s worth seeing again,” says Brian, 30, from New York City. “I don’t care if the woman looks like Kate Beckinsale and has a Ph.D.; if she can’t be bothered to utter those two little words, I am never calling her again.”

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Sex for Better Relationship

How Better Sex can Help Build Better Relationships

by Maria!

Most people tend to link sex as only to having fun and leisure activities. But

wouldn’t it be more benefiting to find out as to what having great sex can

contribute to your relationships?

In case you aren’t aware of it, studies show

that couples who strive in keeping better sex relationships do experience

much more exciting and fulfilling sex life compared to those who only

treat sex as one of their past time activities.

Can better sex help build better relationships?

People with healthy sex relationships in general, also have upbeat mental

and physical state of being. This is especially true for married couples.

These satisfied couples do outright attest to the fact that their marriage

began soaring to higher lever of intimacy brought about the benefits of

involving better sex pleasures within their marriage.

Regular satisfying sexual activities will help you maintain a sound

physical condition and also influence your good mood. A strong

reason to that is because active and better sex is also a form of

exercise, which is what you need to keep a healthy pumping heart

for your blood to circulate well and freely. The form of exercise you

get while having sex can also work out different muscle parts of your

body such as your stomach and back muscles.

How sex can help you become a more pleasant and loving partner

After performing sex with your partner, certain positive types of

hormones are naturally produced in your body. These chemicals being

released inside are responsible for giving you those pleasant feelings

such as relaxation, love and affection. This is why, a better sex will totally

appease ones mood almost instantly.

Speaking of chemicals, your body also releases certain antibodies that

will help boost your immune system. It is also a known fact that a

highly satisfying sex activity will put you into deep slumber afterwards,

and of course a deep rest will further contribute to your body’s

strong immune.

And did you know that sex is also a perfect and natural stress

reliever? This isn’t just a claim I invented, but an old proven fact

already known to many. In fact, most women are able to link

their mood swings and stressful moments to not having ample

sex, love, and affection that their bodies need. Studies show that

even a simple caress of affection will naturally relieve the stress

and negative moods in your body.

The benefits of what having to keep better sex relationships can

give you are just priceless. So, if you are like those others who

still think of sex as just a low valued past time activity, I suggest

that you start thinking twice and learn about the much deeper

contributions that better sex can give you.?

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